Words From A Father To A Son About Marriage

1. My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never asked you if you’re
   saving or investing, and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry her.
2. My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some could be a good mother to
   your children but if you’ve found a woman like a mother to you, your children and
   your family, please don’t let her go.
3. My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the kitchen, where did you get
   that from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands where they worked every
   morning . . . that was our office.
4. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house, don’t look at your pocket;
   look if you will see a smile on your wife’s face.
5. My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-charge of your salary,
   it will be difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home needs and bills
   to pay but if it’s in your care, she will keep you asking even when all has been
   spent.
6. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in her body is nothing to be
   compared to the wound on her heart and that means you may be in trouble living
   with a wounded woman.
7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live a bachelor kind of life with your
   wife, you will soon be single again.
8. My son, in our days, we had many wives and many children because of our
   large farm-lands and many harvests, there are hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace your woman closely.
9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did meet your mother could be your
   eateries and restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the closet thing we did there
   was to embrace each other.
10. My son, don’t be carried away when you start making more money, instead of
    spending on those tiny legs that never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend
    it on that woman that stood by you all along.
11. My son, when I threw little stones or whistled at the window of your mother
    father’s house, to call her out, it was not for sex, it was because I missed her so
    much.
12. My son, remember, when you say your wife has changed, there could be
    something you’ve stopped doing too.
13. My son, your mother, Asake rode the bicycle with me before I bought that
    tortoise car outside there, any woman that won’t endure with you in your little
    beginning should not enjoy your riches.
14. My son, don’t compare your wife to any woman, there are ways she’s enduring
    you too and has she ever compared you to any man?
15. My son, there is this thing you people call feminism, well, if a woman claim to
    have equal right with you in the house, divide all the bills into two equal parts, take
    one part and ask her to start paying the other part.
16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more yams to her father, if you
    don’t meet your wife a virgin, don’t blame her, what I didn’t tell you is that our
    women had prestige.
17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school because I was foolish like many to
    think a female child won’t extend my family name, please don’t make that mistake,
    the kind of female achievers I see nowadays has made the male-gender an ordinary
    tag.
18. My son, your mother have once locked up the cloth I was wearing and almost
    tore it because she was angry, I did not raise my hand to beat her because of a day
    like this, so that I can be proud to tell you that I never for once beat your mother.
19. My son, in our days, our women had more of natural beauty, though I
    wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor painting of their appellation mostly on their
    arms, the ones you people now call tattoo, but don’t forget that they didn’t expose
    any part of their body like your women of nowadays.
20. My son, your mother and I are not interested in what happens in your
    marriage, try to handle issues without always coming to us.
21. My son, remember I bought your mother’s first sewing machine for her, help
    your wife achieve her dreams just as you’re pursuing yours.
22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your mother, it’s a secret of growing
    old and having children to take care of you too.
23. My son, pray with your family, there is a tomorrow you don’t know, talk to
    God that knows everything, everyday.